Thank you swimming. I really appreciate your reply. Am so sorry to hear what a struggle you had, and admire how hard you've worked to lift yourself above.
Originally Posted By: swimmingupstream
I think you will find that if you start thinking about what YOU want and what YOU need and stop communicating it to him then you will have peace in your life. Change what you can change and the rest will just fall into place.

This is very reassuring and encouraging. Thank you again. I will focus on that. I have to admit that yes, I've been dwelling a lot on things I cannot change, at the expense of the things I can.

Originally Posted By: swimmingupstream

for me it is running a full marathon and selling a painting and make a goal to do it..let me know what it is and I will help you! I know it may sound silly but it will help you focus on you!

smile I LOVE the idea of setting a goal. I don't think it sounds silly at all. I've been working off and on at GAL all along and working at self-esteem and assertiveness etc, but I've never really set a goal around it before. I think that's just what I need. And your goals really 'wow-ed' me - good for you! They are quite a coincidence...I like to run also, and, I'm also an artist! I've been sidelined with shinsplints for the last while, but I'm walking lots now and I think they're healing; almost ready to start some light intervals. Have always wanted to run a half! Maybe that should be my goal. Would love to hear more about your art if you're able to share here!

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.