I know she didn't just get pissed last week. My question was though what does it matter now? I do get it how mad she was and maybe still is. If she got pissed at me for sending her flowers for her birthday then that's sad.
That's sort of been my point though. If she's so pissed then perhaps she is still emotionally invested. I've had three ICs tell me this. I read books explaining this. Her being pissed is potentially a good thing. If she can begin to let go of that anger then that's when the work on the R can begin. I need to know from her how I can help her with this...lose the anger.
She wasn't pissed at you because she's angry at you about the relationship, she got "pissed" at you (great word btw) because you don't get it. She's moving on, and you pursuing her and giving her gifts shows that you don't get it yet, you don't understand her, you don't listen to what she's been trying to communicate to you for such a long time, she doesn't want to be with you and it makes her uncomfortable when you pursue her, talk about the relationship, buy her gifts, heck talk about just about anything with her and she is probably literally counting the seconds as to how long your interaction with her will last. This is the part you haven't understood yet.
Yet you still believe that she is holding on to anger that she can deal with and then want to work on the relationship.
I don't believe she is angry, I do believe she is tired of you and it's time for you to realize this and it's time for you to move on with your life. Stop thinking that she is the only one for you, you tried, you gave it your best, now it's time for you to open your eyes and realize that there are at least 1000 other women in your area that would enjoy being with you. You have this mindset of scarcity, she's the only one for you, instead of having the mindset of abundance where there are a ton of options for you and if she doesn't want to be with you, it's her loss, not yours.
Things will not change for you until you start opening your eyes to your reality and accept it for what it is.
