Been catching up on your thread this a.m. I've been feeling a bit better after my latest roller coaster ride, and want to give advice and support where I can.
Get your name off those cards. If your H won't do it, then call the companies, tell them you will not be responsible for H's debts. In my state, it is not uncommon for a person to print in a local newspaper " effective 44-44-4444 I will not be responsible for any debts other than my own. Signed, weoriuweoru. Don't know if that is effective where you live, hell, I don't know where you live. Give companies HIS number and ask them to take you off the list. Lie to them if you have to. Tell them you've been released of responsiblity by a judge. If this is not an effective means in your state, you may need a L to write the letter, even a judgement or ruling by a judge if necessary.
As for the 'manly' jobs. Being an Army wife all these years, I find there isn't much I can't do myself if I put my mind to it. At last I can read directions and follow them. The internet is great for that. My last moment of great pride was when I re-screened a door all by myself.
As for neighbors, there is nothing like them. Before we moved to the sticks, I referred to my next door neighbor as 'my other husband'. He even taught my two oldest to tie their shoes as they were both left handed, and so was he. It was all backwards to me, a right hander.
Isn't it odd that we all seem to be going through this at the same time? I'm starting to believe in plantary alignment.
Hang in there. By the way, eHow is a great site for finding out how to do things.
