Hope, He hasn't hit rock bottom yet. As long as the ow is in the picture, she's helping to hold him afloat for now. He's still growing up and is still trying to find his way.
Continue as you have been.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.