What am I supposed to do???

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He said that we will never get back together if I keep this up.

Correction--this is where you tell him "we will never get back together if you don't stop having your A."

Don't let him hold all the cards, girl.

STOP having sex with him. He AND that woman are both lying. It's clear they are in a full blown A and having sex together. They live together! You need to put your foot down and HARD. He needs to face the consequences. You already know that begging, pleading and crying doesn't work (in fact, it has the opposite effect that you want -- and, oh God, the majority of us all do this, don't we, in the beginning?)

Hard consequences.

Welcome to the board. It's a wonderful place despite none of us ever wanting to be he here.

Your # 1 priority shouldbe your kids right now. DO NOT let him have his cake and eat it. Uh uh, no way, no how.

I know but it is so hard to drop that rope.

It's the only way, Tay. I know it sucks but it is truly the ONLY thing that works, IMO. Puppy gives great advice (2 options) on how to a handle the affair... one is "exposing the affair" and the other is "setting your spouse free." I am a HUGE fan of the 2nd one, personally.

You should not be sleeping with your H while OW is in the picture.

Righto. In fact, I would get tested for STDs stat.