Eric - I learn from you every single day. Your desire to dig deep and root out the truth, even when it hurts, even when it's hard, even when you're afraid ... inspires me.
Glad I can help and really we all learn from each other. I from you, you from me, me from Grit (actually I'm not sure about that one LOL). Seriously though..we are all in this together...leaning on each other, inspiring each other - it is why IMO..we all found this place.
So..you want to dig deep. Put on the constuction hat with the light and go digging, bring your shovel, bring some food and more importantly bring kleenex..it can be one hell of trip.
You talk about your truth..above living it. Do it! As Nikey says..."Just DO it"!
You will fall...get back up...
You will cry...and then you will laugh...
You will run...and then stumble....keep going...
This is YOUR life - live it!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Seriously though..we are all in this together...leaning on each other, inspiring each other - it is why IMO..we all found this place.
I couldn't agree more.
Originally Posted By: Eric
So..you want to dig deep. Put on the constuction hat with the light and go digging, bring your shovel, bring some food and more importantly bring kleenex..it can be one hell of trip.
Ummm ... you forgot the gin????
Originally Posted By: Eric
Just DO it"!
Originally Posted By: Eric
This is YOUR life - live it!
That's the plan!
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
PEI- Your post was amazing! I've been thinking about you today and am looking forward to celebrating over beverages this evening! Hang in there, sister!
So..you want to dig deep. Put on the constuction hat with the light and go digging, bring your shovel, bring some food and more importantly bring kleenex..it can be one hell of trip.
Ummm ... you forgot the gin????
No sweat PEI; I'll bring enough for all of us. Sapphire right?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
PEI, I have to say I'm impressed. I see that the day has come and while it hurt, you seem to be focusing more on you and the things you can control. I applaud that. I'll add that you may also want to accept that there will be pain in the future as things come up. That's the scars that come with having loved somebody so deeply. It's a badge of honor as is the awards for "I did not cheat". Don't discount that you took the high road when you likely had a few times and thought about it as revenge or to make yourself feel better.
Believe it or not, but many of the things you described wanting (centering to sum it up) are things you are already doing and have already started to do. That's one benefit of this as well as your self-esteem (you took the high road; you didn't give up; you are coming through it and recognizing many things you can and cannot control; the list goes on, but etc seems so trite, no?)
A thought for you: Once a glass is full, it must be emptied before it can hold more. Goodness is much like the liquid in the glass - what was in there was not good due to somebody else's actions beyond your control (somebody p*ssed in your pool jokes, anyone?); to have good things, it must now be emptied.
But you kept the vessel intact and even improved it so it could hold something even better. Be at peace with that.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
So..you want to dig deep. Put on the constuction hat with the light and go digging, bring your shovel, bring some food and more importantly bring kleenex..it can be one hell of trip.
Ummm ... you forgot the gin????
No sweat PEI; I'll bring enough for all of us. Sapphire right?
Abso-freaking-lutely!
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
But you kept the vessel intact and even improved it so it could hold something even better. Be at peace with that.
AJ
Thank you. I like this metaphor. And yes, I am aware of the pain that is yet to come. In fact, I had a moment yesterday ... we overlapped for a few minutes at the house, and when I left I was overcome with a feeling of sadness. So I sat, felt it, owned it ... and let it go. Hit me again last night for a few minutes and a group of really terrific friends (you know who y'all are )talked me through it. I'm human. It will happen, I did love him very much.
And I also know that I will be ok. No other choice. I will still be standing when the dust settles.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
)talked me through it. I'm human. It will happen, I did love him very much.