hi all, I'm back. Much to tell, but I think I'll just say where I'm at at the moment and fill in the blanks as the situation requires.

On my own, all employed and (relatively) sane. W hasn't moved but plans to next summer. I sent her a big ol' letter about getting along and caring about her and not wanting to hurt her anymore.

We get along well now. No D, but she's still seeing OM and has made it clear she does not see us getting back together.

I just ended a stormy relationship w/ a 21 year old.

I still love my W. I'll be rereading DR but any advice will help.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)