The shock wears off in time, Piano. The first 7-8 months were so painful for me that I almost couldn't stand to be in my own skin. I COULDN'T believe that someone I trusted SO much for SO long would hurt me like that.
But when they continue on their merry way doing thoughtless, painful stuff without concern for you, it becomes easier. You adjust to dealing with them. In time, nothing phases you.
I sent a nasty email to OW back in March accusing her of having an affair with WH and she had me arrested for harrassment. We were in court yesterday and WH was subpoenaed. Where was he standing during the process? With OW! OW denies having an affair, yet he stands by HER side? The judge was SO flabbergasted, she reduced my sentence. Everyone there was laughing at him. I was ashamed to be his wife. When he told me later that he was moving out for "some time to think" (translation: bang OW) I felt relieved. Let him have is meltdown out of sight, thank you very much. I've seen enough.
So yes, it gets easier, and you learn to put things out of your mind. Otherwise, you'll go crazy.
