Just observing the changes

[Lost Rabbit]

So sorry to hear your news Sanderika, I find even now that H has been back six months odd when things go a bit flat, I have to go back to my DB'ing to add a bit of zing to the comfort factor, actually IMHO I think you need a bit of both..

Just wish I could muster up some zing atm still full of sinusitus unfortunately..

Cas just keep taking it slow and steady, always give him options, call it what you may a get clause or just let him know he just has a choice.. Certainly in my case I do think that my H felt he had a lack of choice, he fell in with the pack (family) and is naturally a very indecisive person, infact due to me being poorly I misjudged how long dinner would take to cook so H said not to worry we'd have a take-out.. I got a little cross when after he asked us all what we wanted and we said curry and he said not really my choice but I'll have what you lot want.. How about saying I would prefer not to have curry what other suggestions do you guys have! I actually stand up for him making sure he has a choice now, so if see him pondering I polite remind him he gave up a marriage for choice once and he will only go back where he was again unhappy if he doesnt honour his need to choose..

Sorry if thats all longwinded as I said sinusitus still very present lol! (()) to you both!