Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[steady]

However, I didn't keep my trap shut. He said can I sleep here Saturday to spend Sunday with the kids and then check in Sunday night or Monday? And I said if you can not contact OW while you are here so I don't feel disrespected in my home. He said oh YOUR home? And I just said well it's your home too, but I'm the one not involving a 3rd party and keeping up my end of the vows. He didn't like that much.

Sometimes the right thing to do is NOT to keep your trap shut. You did really well. Yes it is your home. It's not just about a house. You aren't the one who brought a third wheel into your home, he did.

I'm sure he didn't like it much. The LBS often allows themselves to be a doormat because they are afraid to push the WAS 'over the edge'. When you stand up and stick the truth right in their face they don't like that at all. Well he needs to smell the pile of sh!t he's building. So good for you.

I know you're scared. We all know that. It took courage to do what you did. Courage is acting IN SPITE of the fear.

Look at the cold reality of it. He has OW. Period. That's the hard truth that needs to be swallowed. We can do all the what ifing and wishing in the world, but the truth remains the truth.

He isn't acting like a MAN. He's acting like a boy. You need to treat him that way. He's acting like a coward and he knows it. When you call him on it, it's gonna bang him up. Like all WAS they want to ignore reality and build this fantasy world in their heads where they can rationalize all kinds of irresponsible behavior. That's where he is at right now.

Look at it. Look hard at it. He isn't resembling anything like an adult. He took on responsibilities when he got married. He took on responsibilities when he had children. Now on a big level he's choosing to pretend in his mind that he's being responsible - he's being selfish and self centered. That's the reality of it.

Is this the kind of role model he wants to be for his kids?