Kimmie, going back to the McQ message, why do you think 3 years is an "unreasonable" time for some people not to be able to get over it. Some people never get over it. I agree that if they aren't going to be able to get over it, they shouldn't use the face that they can't forgive/accept to torment the other person. But, surely you can empathize with her hurt, no?

(I agree that he shouldn't move out, I just wonder if it's constructive to frame her as "an abuser" instead of someone that is hurt and can't forgive/accept [yet?]).

Me-53
W-49
D22,D18,D15
T-Since-12/2001
Married-9/2004
She Moved Out-5/28/2010
Piecing start-04/2011
Now-together
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