Sounds to me like all those previous no's of hers were her suppressed resentment and anger at you from the affair, no?
While GAL is supposed to be for yourself, if the softball has historical bad associations with it in terms of affair, it might not be the wisest thing to GAL with given that there are plenty of other things you could do to improve yourself. If you met your OW at a bar, would you then go out dancing weekly at that bar while separated from your wife? I mean REALLY? Heck, in essence this is what I did by continuing to play computer games after I had had EAs with people I met in the computer games. Look where that got me.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
