What am I supposed to do???

[Tay Tay]

My husband and I have been seperated for 6 months. We have been together for 12 years and married 3 years. We have 4 children ages 11,9,7,6. I thought that we had a great marriage. Everyone would say how we were the perfect couple. My husband loves to cook. He is truly my bestfriend. Everything was going great for us and he asked me to marry him. We got married in June 07. Most of the relationship he was a stay at home dad and I was the bread winner. In November 06 I became a stay at home mom and he went to work. He came to me in November of 2008 and told me that he was not happy and he was leaving. We had only been married for 1 1/2 years. We went to our Pastor and he told my Pastor that I did not clean and cook like he would like. My husband decided to stay and see if things would work out. So I began to change my ways and we became happy again. Then in November of 2009 he told me he was not happy again and he was leaving. He left January 29, 2010. It devastated me and the kids.

In March 2010 I was using my husband phone and a text message popped up. The text message eluded to there being another woman. My husband said that I was misreading the text message and there was nothing to worry about. I later found out that there was another woman. I called her and confronted her and she did not know that my husband was married. She said that they do have a friendship but they have not had sex. My husband was very upset that I had called her.

My husband was living in a hotel and I found out in May that he moved in with this "friend" he said he is not with. I called her again and confronted her and she talked to me in front of my husband. She again said they are not together or sleeping together. She said that she hopes that we get back together. She said that he just moved in because he had nowhere else to go. This whole time me and my husband spend every Sunday together for 6 months. We have sex, we go on dates, we spend all day together, we watch movies, we talk, we send each other love poems.

My husband came to me about 2 weeks ago August 14th and told me that he does not think that we will work out and that he has lied this whole time. He said that he is in a relationship with that woman and they are moving forward in the relationship. He began to cry and said that he feels so ashamed for leaving me and the kids. We then both began to cry and ended up sleeping together twice. I got very angry after I thought about everything and called her again. She again told me that she is not sleeping with my husband. She said that he is scaring her by lying to me. She said that she tells him to come back home to me because we do have kids. She said that she has male company over to the house and that is who she sleeps with. She said that when my husband comes home from work she leaves and goes to work. She says that she barely sees him. My husband got very upset this last time I called her. He told me that something broke in him and he can't believe I called her again. He said that it is about me and him and to leave her out of it. He said that we will never get back together if I keep this up. Since then he has called me and texted me though being his loving self.

My husband told me to let go and let God work things out. He told me to see how things play out and if we are meant to be together we will be together. I have two questions. Do you think that the other woman is tell the truth? What should I do about my husband and our marriage? I love my husband and I want him to come home to me and the kids. I have done everything wrong for 6 months. I have begged, pleaded, clung to, cried, and looked very desperate. Now that I have started researching this topic I see that it was only driving my husband further away. Is it too late to save my marriage?