Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

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I am going to need to digest more of what Greek said tomorrow. I'm feeling pretty crappy and numb at the moment (and physically ill - not sure if it's from not eating or just nausea for some other reason).

Thanks for all the input though. BeingMe - he really is gone that much - 13-15 hrs a day and 'supposed to' get off 4 calendar days a month (so 2 weekends). At prior job that never happened and he'd gone 3 consecutive months without a day off.

Greek - why Saturday? Only because my plan was to let him sleep here tonight and put the suitcase in the car. He works tomorrow at 5:30am until Saturday at noon so he'd check in then......

However, I didn't keep my trap shut. He said can I sleep here Saturday to spend Sunday with the kids and then check in Sunday night or Monday? And I said if you can not contact OW while you are here so I don't feel disrespected in my home. He said oh YOUR home? And I just said well it's your home too, but I'm the one not involving a 3rd party and keeping up my end of the vows. He didn't like that much.

As it stands now, he will come home Saturday to sleep a few hours (he's on call as trauma attending tomorrow so he will not sleep at all for 30+ hours) and Saturday night we will discuss whether he is going to the hotel or going to get a one year lease somewhere.

I know it's not DB'ing advice. I am trying very hard to follow it but I am SO SCARED. I WANT my family to stay intact more than anything. If he's willing to talk Saturday I want to hear what he has to say. I did not move 500 miles from everything I have ever known, give away half of my possessions, and uproot my children only to have this blow up like this. It's still unfathomable to me that this is actually my life.

Let's hope that script kicks in good tomorrow because I need something!