I know everyone has been mistreated and feels like they have been kicked in the gut. But it's important to not get cynical and lose faith in people.
People can change. People don't change because someone else wants them to. They change when they choose to change or when they are forced by circumstances to change. John, you are choosing to change, to stop trying to manipulate your wife and to be trust-worthy. It sounds like you did a good job of sticking to your convictions tonight. I believe that if your wife wants to stick to her convictions that she can do it too.
You are in a better position than most of the people on this board. Your wife only left the house a few days ago and she is already nostalgic for what she has lost. You and she are going to MC willingly. You and she are signed up for Retrouvaille and both are committed to going with an open mind and a willing heart. Those are all very good indicators. Stick with your convictions and you will do fine.
