I'm only replying since you asked - clearly I'm no expert (see my own sitch) but I am willing to offer you one female's perspective.

Nothing you can do can control how she is going to classify you. She is going to decide if she wants you as a platonic friend or if she views you as something more romantic. She is going to decide where to put you.

All you can do is control your own self. Make yourself a more attractive person to be around - looks and personality. Cologne, dressed nicely, being happy and funny are all attractive features.

The one problem with your sitch though is how to work on YOURSELF FOR YOURSELF and also not lose any trust she has in you because of your past history of EA's. So I don't have any good advice for you, other than don't get too caught up in trying to act a certain way to prevent her from categorizing you - just be the best 'Bustorama' you can be, inside and out. Take care of your appearance, and act in ways that make yourself proud. Clear as mud?

Me 32 H 32
Ds 3.5 and 1.5
M 5 years, T 14 years
EA/Bomb: 7/1/10
PA revealed: 9/14/10
Legally separated: 10/01/10