- you want your actions to match your stance (not willing to live in an open marriage, or to act all chummy when she's having an affair);
- you want her to feel what it's like to miss you;
- you don't want to convey that you're sitting around like a puppy dog, waiting for her to call or text you. You are BUSY, moving on without her!
You do want to respond occasionally (after a delay), and to interact with her occasionally, to demonstrate that you are healthy, upbeat, BUSY, positive, busy, HAPPY, (did I say busy?), happy, and surviving and even thriving.
But most of all, you are doing it to be "catnip" (see Coach's posts). You need to make HER the pursuer, and be catnip.
