John your W and my W are both manipulators. You need to be firmer on the detaching, since W and I separated its been a lot different. I dont want to hurt your feelings, but you have paid for the retro retreat, she can keep you under her thumb for another 3 weeks. i think it was a bad idea to book it. My opinion. Someone who wants to work on M does not tell their H you can do what ever you want. If I told my W hey I wanna book a trip for us in a month, write now she would waffle, if I booked it she would know that I will be waiting in the wings another month, in her control then the day of meeting at the airport> would she show up? can she just not show up and then what? My point is my W is trying to control my life by laying guilt on me for mvoing own. She wants to control my every move and the further I get along she is not and its getting under her skin.
I know you say you didnt get all melty man, but the way you wrote about her playing the piano, was a bit melty. I dont want to come off as a pr!ck, but some of the criticism you will get is harsh, TH pin and ROb have all dealt me a few blows and it took a while to wake up. You are still in a dream, I dont want to hurt your feelings but I think you exagerate how firm you are with her to keep people replying here, your wife is still in complete control. Sorry to be so BLUNT again my opinion, I think PDT and a few others would agree with me.
