Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[MM78]

Well, I guess we will see what happens.

I wanted to go out on my own tonight but he didn't get home until after the kids bedtime so I ended up doing that alone again. I asked him what is the status of our situation, he said there is no status, it just is. I asked what was new with OW and he said he thought today was her birthday so he texted her. (tomorrow is her b-day). I said how many texts did that take (since it was all day). He said we just kept talking. Not talking to her for 5 days didn't make me any happier so we are going to talk and text. So I pulled out the address of the hotel out of my back pocket and handed it to him and said you need to stay here then. Go to work tomorrow, (overnight), and Saturday you can check in. He said why don't I just get an apartment and save the money? I said do you really want to jump to that point? Are you telling me you are done and we are not trying at all for the girls?

I know I said more than I should but I am mad. I rolled the suitcase in and said what time do you want to see them Sunday? 5-8? Do you want me to drop them off or are you going to pick them up? And then I said some stuff I shouldn't have like 'I hope OW can fill the hole in your heart that the girls leave behind' and 'You can be your dad, but I refuse to be your mom, so you can be your dad alone'. I did say I am tired of being completely disrespected. We BOTH moved here to work on our family and have a better life and so far we've done nothing for that. We opened up to each other with what we are unhappy about and he is still bring the past (OW) into our lives, but together WE have done nothing to try as a team. I don't care if we both feel we tried for the past few years, we have never communicated and tried together.

So I guess now I wait and see what a few nights in a hotel will do for him. Obviously he is going to contact OW and I'm sure her take will be 'you haven't been happy in so long, blah blah blah'.

FML.