I know she didn't just get pissed last week. My question was though what does it matter now? I do get it how mad she was and maybe still is. If she got pissed at me for sending her flowers for her birthday then that's sad.
That's sort of been my point though. If she's so pissed then perhaps she is still emotionally invested. I've had three ICs tell me this. I read books explaining this. Her being pissed is potentially a good thing. If she can begin to let go of that anger then that's when the work on the R can begin. I need to know from her how I can help her with this...lose the anger.
Her getting pissed isn't the point. I didn't advise you to say nothing for her sake, but for your sake, so you can at least end this with some measure of dignity and strength. You will feel better about you if you show her a strong, confident man instead of a whiny little boy.
Women get pissed when men ignore what we tell them and keep pursuing anyway. I understand why she was pissed. The thing I find sad is that you sent flowers to her despite her consistent clear message.
Now if she had been pissed to find you on a dating site, that could be a good sign.
You can help her lose the anger by letting her go. She wants out. She wants to date. Show her that you finally get it.
