Oh gotcha. Sorry I don't think I was explaining what I was thinking very well! Sorry, I said 'blame' but that's not quite what I'd meant. What I was wondering, is - when you were still in 'fix' mode, did that give him the room to avoid actually having to deal with his anger and frustration over work? ie He'd come to you unhappy, you'd try to fix, he'd get angry over you fixing when really the anger is about him feeling helpless/frustrated with his job?

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Now you're not trying to fix...he has to feel that anger directly related to the actual situation that's causing it.

Does that make sense? Just a thought - you know him the best so maybe that's not it at all? (Sorry if I'm not communicating well - a bit of a mush-brain today)

Last edited by FindingMyVoice; 08/27/10 12:13 AM.
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