Mr. Toad's Wild Ride

[WithoutANet]

Hi, I am new to your sitch. It sounds like she is using you as her security blanket. If SHE is the one who files, and SHE makes the decision, then YOU cannot hurt her. She is holding the reins and in complete control here. If you were to bring up the R or thoughts of D, then she would have proof that she is controlling you, and I bet she would really like that -- i.e., it's not good for you. I'd pull back and let her wonder what's going on with you. Take away her control. Let her be afraid.