Hey Punkin - congrats for making a decision - I know it has been tough for you.

I am no expert - but my gut says do not respond at all. You made it clear that you were willing to work on the marriage. He KNOWS. That's all you can do. I would not encourage you to engage any more. The fact that he has offered to postpone IF you do this or that - tells me that he knows he's in a mess. Live your life - make it great WITHOUT him. See what happens.

Hope I can follow my own advice -

M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years
Ds-24,22/S-18
D - 3/11
A Day at a Time