I went to get the kids at the daycare, D wanted to go with me, S said he wanted to stay and play. W looked at me and asked if it was ok, I smiled and said he is fine. Took the D to gym and went back to drop her off the W. I walked in the daycare (pumped up from the gym)(felt fit ) I gave both the kids hugs and kisses and threw them up in the air a few times. I told W cya and started to walk out. She asked me if i was going to answer her text? I said oh ya, I have been really busy. She started to ummm ummm again and I said oh by the way, I want the kids to stay the night with me tomorrow night. She said my dad might be coming in to town. I said I have not seen them enough and I want to spend time with them. She says my Dad doesnt get to see them often either. This is where I almost lost it.
Bit I kept come and stated in a firm voice looking right in her eyes, they are not your dad's kids they are my kids. She could not respond started to walk off and say I will remember that when your parents are in town and I have them. I did not fall into her argue trap, I picked up my D and started tickling her. D started to cry and didnt want me to leave, she kept saying she wnted to go home with me. I had to pry her off me and leave. The W had a pissed off look on her face, but you know what? I dont give a sh!t anymore about hurting her feelings, oh I forgot, she said she doesnt like the kids hanging out at a house with a bunch of "single people" I said I am looking for a place of my own and should be out in a month. this was before the outburst.
For her to use the kids as a way to control things, really is disrespectful. I wish I could speak some of the wise words that have been offered to me on this site, but I dont remember it all when I get steamed.
But I felt good about putting my foot down, after she was told I was taking them tomorrow night, I said I will pick them up tomorrow.
It felt somewhat liberating to take the lead for a change, and tell her I am taking the kids. She does not look happy lately, she also asked me about working, I did not answer her. I have some projects going, and after the D papers I setup the new company in my parents name and will receive a smal salary to manage the projects. This way I can go to court and say I am getting 2K a month gross, and if that increases after a while it will be after the D. What do you guys and gals think?
) I gave both the kids hugs and kisses and threw them up in the air a few times. I told W cya and started to walk out. She asked me if i was going to answer her text? I said oh ya, I have been really busy. She started to ummm ummm again and I said oh by the way, I want the kids to stay the night with me tomorrow night. She said my dad might be coming in to town. I said I have not seen them enough and I want to spend time with them. She says my Dad doesnt get to see them often either. This is where I almost lost it.
