So let me get this straight.... your W asked you for a separation agreement when she first left and you said no because a DB coach and a few attnys told you not to. But now you are wondering why your W is STILL pissed that you don't listen to her or respect her decisions?
HELLO!?
Look, I am sure the DB coaches are fine people with lots to offer but anybody knows the longer you try and put off legal matters the worse it will be. If the attnys told you to wait my guess is there was some legal avenue there that would work in your favor to wait (house, money... something) but I can assure you it was NOT for emotional reasons. Attnys practice law and advise people based on LAW - not feelings or hope.
I think you are a nice guy but you are so nit picky about details when you need to look at the bigger picture. Your W wanted a separation agreement and you said no. She knew you said no so she tried to initiate *something* with the house papers and you said no. Now you are nit picking that it wasn't a separation request? That is EXACTLY what it was and you once again said NO. She has tried more than once to NOT be legally married to you and each time you said no. The second that house is sold you will be served which is far more dramatic than agreeing to a separation agreement.
You want her to "try" but she is trying... just not in the way you want. She is trying to change things but it's the opposite direction than what you want. You will only see her "trying" when it's the way you want.
And you know what? ALL LBS EVENTUALLY HAVE TO FIGURE THAT OUT ON THEIR OWN. Know what else? It's brutal and painful but the truth.
Your W about lost her mind when you sent her flowers yet you are surprised she *still* won't work on things? As I said - she is working on things just not the way you want them to be worked on.
Your W doesn't want to be part of the house process - she wants her money and she wants it sold. I do agree she needs to put in effort or else she should get less money but forcing her to help won't show her consequences in the way you want. In fact, she will become more difficult than she already is. Why would you want somebody that can't deal with adult situations helping you? It's simple business - her lack of skills equals greater compensation for you. It is what it is.
I know you know all this! This isn't about a house or a difficult financial time.
Your C said to "let go". What steps did he advise you to take that are action orientated?
