Ah yes, this gets back to the mirror don't escalate point. If I escalate like the love-starved puppy I am, I scare off the cat. She needs to meow more insistently for me.

So, I guess my question is where does my leading come in? I thought flirting and wooing affirmations was part of the leading and love bucket filling? Or it's just seen as pursuit if it's not MIRRORING something she is doing? If I wait for her to flirt we might be here for years?

MM78, what do you think about the gay friend point of view vs. the me coming on too fast for where she is (overescalating) point of view?

Last edited by bustorama; 08/26/10 09:53 PM.
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