She may not be in an affair just yet but clearly she's on the path to an affair. So what's the difference?
To me, the word 'affair' denotes a secret, hidden, romantic/sexual involvement with someone other than a partner you are still in relationship with.
W and I are not legally separated. We have no separation agreement. We are still legally married. It would be one thing for her to date if we were legally separated but we're not.
I suspect that even if you were legally separated, you would be upset because you are still legally married.
At some point, the legal stuff is just that - legal stuff. IMO, the legal status is not the point, it's the relationship status. If you were engaged to be married, so NOT legally married, and you discovered your fiance' had a profile on a dating site, . . . now that's a problem and speaks volumes about their character.
When you break it down and strip away all of the reasons I try to justify doing strong consequences now, it really comes down to me being angry and trying to do something to get my pound of flesh. There, I said it. That's about as honest as I can get...no BS. I DON'T want to be that way. Maybe I just needed a couple days to vent.
I'm glad you realize that. Vent away.
I feel like I'm simply being thrown out like a piece of garbage.
I'm really sorry. It hurts, and there's no way around it.
This is yet another good reason to get out there and spend some time with the opposite sex, so you can see that other women find you attractive. Time to get your mojo back.
