i would like to add an addendum to what I believe to be a very true post OT
forgiveness also doesn't mean what they did was right
I have forgiven my exes for being the kind of idiots they were, well, because, they weren't very evolved people
I am better than they are (bear with me here...it helps the forgiveness train rolling) I wouldn't be angry at a toddler for forever for spilling grape juice...I would remember they did, they would get a sippy cup next time, and probably apple juice because it doesn't stain but i wouldn't take it personally
being able to forgive means letting go of the "personally" part
this week we had court for Cori's daughter. His ex wants her back because everyone in her family is unemployed and she needs child support, so she took her, again, and filed false charges of abuse against us. I had to sit in the hallway and listen to her family call me a b*tch and a bad mom and all sorts of things while I waited for 4 hours before I had to testify. It was grueling AND while I don't want them for my friends, I had to look at them and feel sorry because: #1 they OBVIOUSLY don't know what truth, honesty and love are #2 they are trash #3 they are unemployed trash #4 they have bad dye jobs #5 they have really bad fashion sense (which should negate custody IMMEDIATELY #6 their intelligence level is lacking
I could go on and on
it was annoying and obnoxious but in the end it wasn't about me
it was about what they lack it was about their jealousy
(although...truth be told, methed out mom is skinnier than me...siiiiiiigh)
hopefully the truth will win out here (I mean, part of her argument was that I fed the kids mass produced meals instead of making my own food...CLEARLY a lie)
but
your ex and his choice of companion isn't about you it is about what they lack what they are missing in life
