Looking for help with WAW

[gr8 day 2B alive]

mza,
I think your splitting hairs in the terminology of an affair.
Yes, you are still legally M.
I like to believe that a M is a union between two people. You haven't been a union for a year now. your old M is over- wether in can be reignited, only time will tell.

Just to be clear, W and I are not legally separated. We have no separation agreement. We are still legally married. It would be one thing for her to date if we were legally separated but we're not.

There may be a time where if your both not living in the same residence after a certain time you are considered separated.

There, I said it. That's about as honest as I can get...no BS. I DON'T want to be that way. Maybe I just needed a couple days to vent.

This is highly recommended!!!

To answer your other question, what has changed? Well, I guess nothing really. You're right, she still doesn't want to talk or reconcile. I guess for me what has changed is that I feel like I'm simply being thrown out like a piece of garbage. That she can't even have the deceny to talk to me once to let me know what happened. Let me know why/how her feelings changed. It crushes me to know that after all that time together she doesn't even think enough of me to talk to me about it. Difficult for me to understand how she could do this...not even tell me why? I still don't know why? That's not right. That's cruel.

Honestly mza8, say she did come to you and said-

mza8, I have joined a dating website and wanted to let you know I will be going out with other guys and will be enjoying my life."

HOw would you have responded??

maybe SHE already knows that anwser.

I know it's hard but you will get through this.
Tough situations go away, tough people don't!