take control of yourself. continue to learn about the "game"- What attracts W and how to communicate affectively with them.
Find yourself, know who you are.
I know I'm an awesome guy and deserve a great woman who notices me. If my W wakes up, great, if not someone else will see it. Either way I win.
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Gr8, are you still on the same dating website as your W? What does everyone think of me joining the same website as my W? Don't want W to look at it as my playing tit for tat, but do I even care at this point? If I'm going to date then this dating website would be one of the ones I would probably use.
My W never joined the one I go onto, it was her "friend". SW use to tell me- Man, she goes out with a lot of guys. It's easy when your on a dating site! My W found out I was on there b/c I clicked on her friend. I didn't know the ins and outs of the site , but you get to see who views your profile.
She is the one who brought it up to me, she thought I was doing it to rub it in her face. I said that I joined for me, not to put it in your face.
So if you join make sure your intentions are good. I use match.com and I met three girls so far. Two I liked and of those I saw the one for three months.
I recently when back on and I'm seeing someone next week. She is separated too so we have that in common.
It will give you a perspective of who and what's out there. Watch out for girls from Russia.
another thing- going out with someone else will help you heal. It wil help you to trust again and it will help you open up more.
My biggest fear right now is when I do find some right, I will have to introduce them to my kids at some point. I have decided it will take a good 6-9 months os seeing someone for me to make that move. I will conquer that fear when I need to. Right now it all about me and my kids.
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