Newer Game- Moving Forward

[steady]

I can't think of one that doesn't have to do with HER.

-the A continues
-we are still heading to D
-she said and acted that she wants the above
-nothing indicates this has changed

From my point of view those all have to do with YOU and not her. She continues to have an A and disrespect YOU.
YOU are still pointing toward a D. She said and acted to the above and it has an effect on YOU. No indicators the sitch has changed but YOU have changed.

You don't take the calls because you are unavailable. You don't jump every time she says jump. You aren't there for her every time she needs you - she walked away from that when she left. She doesn't get the benefits a person would get when they are in an intimate R with someone.

You wonder why she called -
- Maybe she's looking back
- Maybe she needs something. If I give it to her am I enforcing her bad behavior? If I don't won't that drive her further away?
- Maybe she's taking my temperature
- Maybe she missdialed
- Maybe.... <it's a very long list>

I use to do it all the time. I do a lot less now. That comes in time and being sick and tired of being sick and tired of burning all that fuel in the brain - it's exhausting.

Letting go requires no energy at all. It's in the convincing ourselves to let go where the energy exertion is.

Surrender is to move over to the winning side.