As always, thanks for the support. I do need to do things to get out of the house, I need to meet someone, a live person to talk to! The kids is a harder question, I think H is happy with them staying here, but the boys are so missing their dad. S11 woke up crying this morning saying 2 weekends a month isn't enough. H is supposed to stop by the school tonight at the open house, I emailed him and said I would stay at S13 pracitce tonight if he and S11 wanted to come back to the house. I'm trying to be very pleasant, but the boys just need to see their dad.
I stayed away last night, S11 called his friends from home and said, I have sad news, my mom and dad divorced. S13 flipped out when he heard that, he said they aren't divorced, they are just taking time to think. Then my ILs called and S11 told them dad wasn't here, he was at his apartment. They asked to talk to me, wanted to know what was going on and why. I just said that H left, he wanted to tell them, and all I know is what he said, that he stopped loving me. What a night! H then called and I briefly told him of my conversation with the ILs and then let him talk to the kids.
With the help of all of you, I'm working very hard to stay strong, to not email unless necessary, no phone contact, and be pleasant. It is harder than I even thought it would be. I don't have any GAL goals yet, still need to set those. Someone wrote earlier that he is going to be hurtful and say awful things, I need to remember that they are expected and stop reacting so dramatically to them.
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW