Yeah, but he (Hope4Us) never relented on that boundary (getting rid of her affair momentos). He' drop it for awhile, but he ALWAYS came back to it, and he never wavered on his OVERALL STANCE of "I will not live in an open marriage," and "I will not tolerate any continued contact with him."
His stance is really no less "hard-core" than mine -- he exposed even to his own KIDS, for example -- he was just remarkably more patient than almost anyone I've ever seen on here, in how long he was willing to give his wife to come around.
From what I remember, he kept asking her to get rid of the glass, but she kept refusing. He didn't give any consequences, just kept hanging in there and waiting. He did insist on no contact, but it didn't seem to be a problem, since the OM in his case was a scumbag who was already hooked up with one or more other women, if I remember right. He was incredibly patient, and had some very hard conversations with her.
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My guess is "further contact with OM." I bet they were on an "on-again/off-again" trajectory that -- if you were ever able to look at it -- would neatly coincide with her demeanor towards YOU all these months.
That's just a guess, but probably an educated one.
My W and her OM were on-again/off-again starting way back in spring of last year, getting more and more off as time whent on, from what my intel told me, to his unwillingness to move here. He kept trying to end it, and she kept throwing herself at him and giving him more leeway, which he took advantage of. I was suspicious of contact over the summer, but I don't necessarily think there was two way contact this summer, until she called him. I think our talk about her A brought it up in her mind, and when she realized she'd have to erradicate him from her life, she went and perused her photos and mementos, and his FB page, and got set back that way. That seems to fit what I saw anyway.
