Since I did this twice already, I am going to have to be brief because I don't have the time.
When I got home last night, W was dividing stuff up. Said I should take a look. Told her I didn't need to that whatever she had was fine.
Went to balance out my bank account and she stands behind me so I ask, "What do you want? What are you doing?" She says, "Just trying to see what you are looking at." I'm guessing she saw my balance, but she doesn't know what is outstanding or due either.
Went to the basement to break-down the stereo/tv/surround system that we just finished putting in. Broke my heart. I have done so much work inthat beautiful basement I had to sit down and cry a bit about leaving it behind. Kids came down and separated toys into piles for Dad's house, Mom's house and charity. They chhered me up a bit.
Went back upstairs and bickered a bit over glasses and major utensils. Not a big deal for me. Wanted to quit, but she said she could keep going even though she was tired, because it wouldn't get any better for her since she isn't sleeping hardly at all.
When we finished-up, she went to find a cigarette and noticed her wallet was out of her purse. She asked me half jokingly if I was trying to steal her money and then made a big deal about having only $25 in the bank. I asked if she had gotten the support money that was garnished from my salary last Friday yet and she said no. I told her that was unfortunate because I could have written her a check myself and she wouldn't have had to wait. I considered giving her some $, but decided against it. I figure that I have to let her deal with this situation that she has gotten us into, right?
She says this is all about the money for me and I tell her that I am just trying to figure out all of the scenarios so that we can make the right decisions about our SAPARATE futures. That I don't want either of us to end up financially devastated because se are over-extended. I do think this houseing situation is going to kill us though. She says she is also worried, but that she has seen her Mom survive it and just assumes everything will be ok and she will survive somehow. How naieve can you be?
