Kat, it is a good start. I like how you got the respect thing in there. I'd like to see a less "business-like" tone and a little more playfulness/flirtiness. Nothing over-the-top, at least not yet.lol.
I love those "leading statements" where you lead them to think about you. "Hey K, has your memory brought up the time we XYZ" or "I know your memory is bringing back good feelings/thoughts/memories about me" or ?? Something along those lines.
Always positive and alwasy about you! "I know you have been thinking about me..." "I'm sure I've been on your mind lately.."
Detach and think of this as just a fun game, OK? No biggie if it doesn't work.
D4ML, I like em a bit rough too. I am the "good girl" in my Rs. The perfect guys make me look bad.lol.
I originally wrote how I love to keep things in balance.
When I was driving down to Branson we were writing double meaning messages back and forth the whole day until he closed up the office early to come see me!(Don't worry, S17 was typing back my replies. I do not text and drive!)
So there is a bit of a double meaning statement there.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am taking over your thread!! Oooppss! Ok, I sent the text. Reminding him of the check I sent to cover dinner in Branson(think of me and the fun and that I was paying you back)and that I see it still hasn't been cashed. Oh and kept the balance thing in there since it is a nice play on words.
Didn't remind him that I sent a letter with the check but if he kept them together, he should recall it. Maybe he is keeping it since no other woman ever paid. Just a thought. Thanks for listening.
Stay strong, especially if you are seeing results!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Back in May, when I saw that 29 year old college friend was going on vacation with his family, I wrote him a note basically backing off. Then I realized that maybe I was jumping to conclusions and that maybe she was just a friend of the family.(His family was like a sponsor family for her when she was in college 10 years ago, so yes this kind of has a sleeping with your "Dad" type of quality to it).
Anyway, he wouldn't talk to me. So I wrote him a letter...the story of us. Back from when we were in high school until now. I told him how I got scared but that I was willing to try if he was. Maybe wrongly, I mentioned that I didn't care if he had a dollar in his pocket or $100, I was interested in him and not what he could do for me or give me.
I had already sent the letter and the check when a day or so later he posted that he was in a relationship. So I never got a reaction from the letter. I forgot to say, I did get to IM with him a week or so later when he was on FB. Basically just thanked him for the lovely few months we had and he replied "likewise". I don't know if I hurt him when I backed off or if since he was already going for 29 year old, he didn't want to talk about all of this with me. He lives in Southern Missouri in Springfield and I live in NE Kansas in Topeka. So I know that the mail does take a least 2 days.
So there you go, Miss Hopeful Romantic.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Won't hear from him soon as he is Las Vegas with girlfriend. This is the Mom in me talking. I know she had her babysitter from Phoenix fly to Mo. He is 18. So putting everything together: He is there to watch her boys while she is on vacation with boyfriend. The thing that bothers me is that her 5 year old(the oldest) just started school last Thursday and she goes off on vacation! New school, new experiences and no Mom in sight.
I couldn't do it. A weekend maybe but not right as school is starting. Kids that young need their parents around at this time. If that is the type of person he wants, he can have her because that in no way is me. Yes this is me being a bit judgmental.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey Kat, I guess I am confused--this guy has a gf? The 29 y/o??
I think you may have scared him with any heart-felt, emotional letter. That is why truth darts are so good--short, to the point, no real emotion to deal with. It's a guy thing and I "get it". They don't want too much drama (at least the ones that I would be interested in don't). I do have a "slant" on what I want in a guy which, considering my history, you may want to take with a grain of salt.lol.
Hey! You helped me with a good truth dart a bit ago!! Ever used one yourself?
So...don't know if this one will come around or not, but in general I would say you need to get some "truths" about yourself out to the universe. "I need a man that....and then fill in the blank. Men LOVE a challenge--so things like "Let's see if you can ...." go over well too.
I wish you hadn't sent it so quickly--it would have been fun to throw in a challenge to him as well as the other stuff...
I need the practice too...I'm not throwing out too much stuff right now and I defintitely could be doing better right now!
Ugh--I need one concerning the tile in the bathroom. I have replaced the leaky vanity and sink, the mirror, the light, the floor was tiled, and a new medicine cabinet was put in and I'm just finishing up with painting and putting up new baseboard.
So my dilema is with the tile around tub/shower. It is pink (this is my son's bathroom) and has yucky grout and the guy doing the work pulled off a tile and there is mold growing behind it--disgusting.
So my H says as I am painting "what are you doing about the tile " and like an IDIOT I turn to him and ask" can I do sometthing about it?" and he says "I'm not paying for anything more--I paid for all the other stuff (which is true).
My S's birthday is coming up and while in the car yesterday my H asks him what he wants for Bday and I said "he wants new tile--you don't want that pink tile do you S" and S mumbles "not really".
So now I am working on it--my one friend says to just tell him very strongly (a 180 for me!) that the tile is being replaced.
I want H AND S to do it together--I think it's not that big of a deal, my H watches all those home shows and GOOD GRIEF by now should know how to do SOMETHING...
Anyhoo--just one of the little things I'm working on...any tips?? Truth darts or challenges coming to mind??
Sorry never meant to make my story confusing. Yes ex boyfriend(46) after going on family vacation that included 29 year old and her two boys, decided to move her in with him. I didn't know this when I sent the letter. Just knew that when I backed off, it changed something and he wasn't talking. So at a friends urging I just wrote him what was going on from my view point but starting back when we were dating. I am not actively doing anything to come between them. Just watching the train wreck from afar. I sent the letter when they were all on vacation back in May.
As for your H, I would just come out and ask him how he would have liked tile that was pink in his bathroom? Yeah, didn't think so. We are replacing it.
Thanks for listening. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
