Much of what you say rings true about my situation with a lady I've been seeing. Similar time period of dating, taking a while to get to the first kiss, not taking it much deeper and the "are we related" feelings. Heck, she and I even have the same first name and work with computers (she's a web master and I am a systems programmer). However, mine was not burnt by prior R's - she is in a funk with her finances, job and her health. I think she was the one to end all her prior relationships.
I've decided just this week to put myself back in the dating buffet line. If this lady gets out of her funk, then I will leave it up to her to move towards me. But I am not putting my life into a funk hoping that the deep connection ever comes.
Just remember, if you draw away, it can cause a natural curiosity and attraction on the other side. And if it does, just make sure that you dont get back into the state where you are hoping for more and she is still not ready.
