Was just searching the boards and found a couple quotes on swimmingupstream's thread I wanted to remember.
SteveMcQueen: I would be asking yourself the question, why do I allow [him] to make me feel insignificant?
It's really odd the psychological reversal that happens when a WAS manages to convince the LBS that it's their fault for everything. [my note:- not that I'm a LBS; this just caught at me for some reason]
swimmingupstream: I was cleaning out my in box today and came across email exchanges from early 2009 between my husband and myself and I am mortified that I talked the way that I talked about myself. I lacked confidence and showed no respect for myself. I was needy and relied too much on him to validate how I felt about myself. I have really found my strength in the last few months and I have realized that I am such a better person now. I don’t nag, b****, or complain and while it is hard to hear some of the things that my husband says to me and I find myself getting worked up I realize that I now have the ability to calm myself and walk away.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
