ever since i started going places solo, i've received a lot of attention.
guy #1 was way too young. asked me to join him and his friends for sushi. i think he found out that i was old enough to be his mother, he backed off big time. guy #2 is not a good squash player but talks a big talk on how good he is. he kept asking me to play on sunday morning. i've avoided him since. yet, my friends still tease me about it ("he's so hitting on you and he's not getting it"). guy #3 was an hr recruiter/stalker. he seemed nice at first but when i met him in person, he basically lied about his appearance. he was not my type and i was not attracted. he was really interested in me .. told me i had nice eyes and a pretty smile.
fourth time is a charm? he's really nice .. i am finding that he's a lot like me. we both take an interest in nice cars, he dresses well, looks young for his age, decent job, loves family (but not like my h who's enmeshed with his), and he's active - sports, hits the gym. he's in shape .. like me.
we're just friends at the moment. like i said, i don't act on anything.
but forrest asked me to do some more GAL and figure out what i want. and i'm trying to figure out what i want. i know that so many have said to me that i need to go out there and realize that my h isn't the only person on earth. so i have gone out and made some friends. at first, nobody was my type. now suddenly, this guy comes along .. who i totally didn't expect and i start to realize that there are some nice guys out there.
my expectation was that guys my age would either come with a lot of baggage, let themselves go, looks far too old for their age, or have no interests.
me? i'm active, i take care of myself, i have interests (cars, sports, wine, cooking, fashion, trivia games, etc), and i'm financially stable. i don't need a man but in order to join me in my world, you have to have something to bring to the table that i don't have.
i've learned that i don't want to drag someone through my life because that's like not bringing anything to the table and now you're eating off my plate. look, i'll share but you have to bring something to share with me too. if you have nothing to add to my life, then you're not the one for me.
Quote:
I say whatever gives your confidence a boost is OK. And I hear you about a nice guy talking to you like a human. I have had that a time or two (thank you Lowes!!) and it is wonderful. Thanks to all those guys out there that, interested or not, make you smile!!
it's really just a confidence booster. but you also realize that you can't settle any more. i think i bring a lot to the table. i start to see the value in myself.
