Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[LSG]

DSL

You are so right about the job. I think it would be a big boost for me in so many ways.

I could never see my W in the same way I did before the affair. She is not the same person I married. She seems to have thrown out all her values. I think she has had previous affairs before. At least EAs.

I do believe that there is someone who would help and support me instead of bring me down like W has been doing from the time I have begun looking for work.

I do have more lady friends. All they are is just friends. I would not be in a R with anyone. I think I have some serious issues from this last year I need to gain some perspective on.

[LSG]

Hi everyone,

W told me that she is moving by the end of September. I am not sure if I have the money to rent a place or even move my stuff.

I do have a possible interview this or next week. I am worried if I can pull it off. I have not made it through to actually getting a job. How do I do this? Part of me wants to beg or plead, but I know I cannot do that. God, I am so stressed by all this.

I have to be strong, but I do not feel very strong tonight. I have lost my W, my kids have lost their family, and I may lose a place to live and my kids too. I wish I knew what to do.

I have not heard back on the mobile home either. I need that so bad too.

I am so sorry to be whiny. I am tearing up inside, and I worry that it will come out in tears soon.

I am so close to losing everything that I hold so dear. I worry for my kids because they want a family together.

I do not know how to pull this one off. The judge will surely rule for her if I have no residence to live at. What do I do?

I need so much help.

Currently we have joint custody with no primary parent. How do I divide the time up? She wants to put the kids in an afterschool program during her time. What do I do about this?

I am so sick to my stomach right now.

I don't know what more to say about this situation. I cannot lose my kids.

Sorry for rambling so much!

Please help me! I am not so strong tonight.

[dad1b1g]

LSG, it may be good for you to let the emotions come out if you can find a few moments to be by yourself. I know I feel alot stronger when I have and my IC even suggested it would be a good idea to let it all out once in a while.

The parenting schedule - best thing I can tell you we did was to use the internet, lots of different ways to do it.

You can do this, you've been doing great just keep your focus

[LSG]

dad1b1g,

I will look to today. I have so much to do, and I don't know where to start. I am sure the emotions will all come out today.

I hope you are right that I can do this.

Thank you very much!

[LSG]

I am doing my best today. It is difficult to not show my emotions today. I am going on as if W did not say anything last night about moving out.

All I am thinking about is the kids!!!

[LSG]

Hi friends,

I just started crying. I don't think I am going to be able to afford a place for me and my kids, so I am going probably lose them. It is the sad truth! I will probably be without a computer soon, so I appreciate everyone here helping me through this difficult time in my life.

I don't know what is going to happen soon. She has our place until the end of September, and she will be out the first week of September. I just am unable to afford to care for my kids the way they need. I love them very much!!!

I want to be strong, but I don't know what else to do.

[DaddyLongShanks]

LSG,

A friend could give you a place to stay for a while.

[LSG]

Hi DSL,

Thank you for the suggestion, but I don't have any friends that I could stay with. They all have families, and it would not work out to well.

[DanF]

The amount that the court ordered for your W to pay you isn't enough to find a place to live? How can she find one then?

I don't know the rules there, but in WI, all of our income is essentially divided in half for a period of time roughly equivalent to 1/2 the length of the marriage. How long have you been married again?

No family in the area?

[LSG]

DanF,

The amount that I am receiving is about quarter to a fifth of what she is earning currently, so she still have significantly more than me. Her parents are also helping her with everything. The amount is very little that I have been awarded.

We have been married about 9 years this coming Sunday.

I have no family nearby to help me. It is pretty dire. I hope to have an interview tomorrow. If I get the position, then, I will be okay. If not, then my worst case scenario has come true, and I will be out on the street for sure.

I hate to be all doom and gloom, but it is just the reality of my sitch currently.

Thanks for checking on me today. I so much like to hear what you have to say.