CTH, I can relate to all of what you write in terms of the finances and even to a degree the feeling of anger, which in my case really helped. I think the turning point in my situation was the temporary support agreement in which STBXW raked me over the coals and showed no guilt doing so whatsoever. She didn't think for a sec how I'd come up with that kind of money as long as she was getting what she wanted (not needed). However, I've managed to gradually detach and shift my focus to me, DD and to an extent my future. While there's still lots of work to be done in all these areas I know that once the D is finalized my life 2.0 will be better. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
So perhaps this anger and motivation to fix your finances is a catalyst for your life 2.0
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
