Puppy, I also saw how you compared my sitch to Hope4Us, and warned that my W would have a hard time giving up OM completely. You were right, this whole FB thing is just like that glass Hope4Us's W held onto so stubbornly. Interesting, in Hope4Us's situation, he totally hung in there, and stayed with her even while she refused to let that stuff go. In my case, I'm keeping myself at a distance until my W lets that stuff go.
Yeah, but he (Hope4Us) never relented on that boundary (getting rid of her affair momentos). He' drop it for awhile, but he ALWAYS came back to it, and he never wavered on his OVERALL STANCE of "I will not live in an open marriage," and "I will not tolerate any continued contact with him."
His stance is really no less "hard-core" than mine -- he exposed even to his own KIDS, for example -- he was just remarkably more patient than almost anyone I've ever seen on here, in how long he was willing to give his wife to come around.
