CD, as I said on your thread - great insight! See how much easier to see someone else's situation with objectivity rather than your own???
I am taking all you've said to heart. I especially like the highs and lows theory. We make too much of them both!
As you know, I am a person who likes actions to solve issues so I guess I was just looking for new actions. Right now, however, maybe no new actions are necessary for me and I just need to keep being the Sunny I know I am.
As for acting as if I were already in the R I deserve? Well, that's harder. I have to temper that somewhat because I don't want to behave in a way that says I approve of H "as he is" and positively reinforce his negative behavior. BUT... looking at this viewpoint does make me realize I can and should do some things differently in the R, for myself!
Can I have the R I deserve with H? That's a big question. I'm sure you've asked yourself the same. The H I have currently - no. The H he CAN be at times - yes. I'm just not sure if that H is ever going to come back around. Some things I can certainly do to fulfill myself and I will continue to do that. Other things I can fulfill with my kids and will certainly continue that as well. However, I really do miss having that special R from both a romantic point of view and non-romantic point of view! I can't fulfill that for myself but I suppose I can be happy in other ways right now, which will have to be enough until the day I can have that with H or someone new!
