It's hard when you see a bit of progress to not want to ride that wave.
The false high leads to the accentauted (and false low). Which one has greater effect on you? I know MY answer. So if I can flatten the high, the low won't be as low, either.
Originally Posted By: Sunny
I'm just tired of living like this, I suppose. I want the relationship I know I deserve and it's hard to be patient and wait on that.
I'm gonna say some of this comes from the artificial highs and lows. Question- If you were in the relationship you deserved, how would you feel and HOW WOULD YOU BEHAVE? No patience required. Do it NOW. Either he'll get it or he won't.
I don't know who the nickel goes to but I keep this one in my head- Prepare yourself for your next R. Fix the things that you accept were your responsibility in the M. The excitement comes from WHO the next R will be with. Regardless, YOU will be ready for the R you deserve.
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
Need to keep the end goal in mind here, I suppose.
What REALLY is the end goal? Think about it. You seem to have two in your post. One you state; one you are attached to.
e.g The relationship you deserve Him
You say it yourself. I'm not advocating the action but you give yourself the answer in it.
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
I think about chucking him out so I can go get the relationship I want!
Can you see a way to do the latter without the former? Really. I am asking. Is there a way that works for you? Can you create one?
Coul you get "something" you need from the R as it exists and create the rest of what you need by and for yourself?
If you are familiar with the "compartmentalization process" common in WAS/A's, can you do the same?
Find what is missing internally? Or would you have to look "outside"?
I'm standing in the same "forest", too, so I know it's hard to see the forest when you are standing in it.
