I think if she puts the hammer down to quickly on him that she could push him further away. Sounds like she has been trying to push him into staying in the M and should just back off and give him some space and time. While he's figuring things out she needs to GAL and move on herself so she becomes more attractive to him.
Thanks for the explanation. I both agree and disagree, depending on what you mean.
Yes, she needs to GAL, and she needs to "let him go" (see Gucci's excellent thread of this same name/topic). But if by "put the hammer down" you mean "setting and enforcing boundaries," I strongly disagree. It is at this early stage that a betrayed spouse NEEDS to lay out (and learn to enforce) effective boundaries, for their own emotional health. The "pushes them further away" thing is a myth, as by the time people find us on these forums their spouses are typically ALREADY in full runaway mode.
