I think you arne't tehre yet... your H needs to get this "leave" idea out of his head before you try to work on romance...
He's got a lot of work to do yet..
Well, I don't want to work on romance per se, but want to aid in his attraction back to the M. I know that sounds like the same thing, but there is a difference.
He has gotten the leave idea out of his head, or so he says. It's just that his reasons for staying currently have more to do with the kids than with wanting to be with me. Having said that, he would not still be here if he didn't think we could rebuild our R. I wouldn't even want him here if I felt he had no feelings for me whatsoever. It's just right now he is still in this fog so his feelings are clouded. But, he no longer sees our M as irreconcilable.
