You're telling me! I do think that early abuse might be part of what is at play here. Her very first boyfriend (young high school) was physically abusive to her and her mom hit her as well when she was younger. There is no sexual abuse that I am aware of, but things I have read suggest that the forms of abuse (from mom and from first boyfriend) that she has experienced could create severe trust issues and that I may have retriggered those when I had the EA's and their aftermath on her. I wonder if that's where her ideas that "I was going to kill her" came from (physical fear based on her early experiences?). She said to me post-separation that if there was ANYONE in the world she thought she could trust and that wouldn't hurt her it was me and if she got hurt even by me who wouldn't hurt her. I am sure we need MC if we are ever to get past this issue.
Yeah, I will keep careful on the legal front. When she used the word "violated" under those circumstances, it threw me for a loop also.
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