My walk away wife story

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Buddy,

you guys have kids together, you need to buck up, I am in tx as well, thats why I used that term. It is tough, we are all in a tough place, but you need to man up and deal with what is going on. For you and your kids, I dont like my sitch either, but you have to live your life for you and your kids. Dont let her get the best of you. When kids are involved you have to be strong for them, you have to be their rock, period. Dont pout, sulk or be angry in front of her, you could have used this interaction to your advantage and been happy and giddy, its ok that you didnt but think about it. You need to SHOW her you are moving on>>>>>> I have been here for 10 years, with first W, busted D then backslid to no return. Back 3 years ago with 2nd W and busted it again, to be here again I would say I am a lifer here. I am not as technical as others, but I will comment when I see things that are out of whack!!!!

That's great advice, Dsh.



Puppy

[A_goodman]

40,

This thing is going to get really ugly. Don't sink. Don't get baited. When you walk into that courtroom, be all Sunshine and Light, but definately have your ducks in a row. It sounds like you do. I hate it that your kids are being subjected to her BS, but with the evidence of her stellar performance I hope justice gets served. If so, soon you'll be back in the drivers seat.

Good luck man.

[40andsadintexas]

This thing is going to get uglier than any one can imagine. Her parents are the classic enablers and on top of that they are very wealthy. Her sister got divorced 2 years ago and her parents spent over $100,000.00 on her divorce, the had nothing but debt and a foreclosed house, and a kid the father had never seen to fight over. My wife is now taking divorce advice from her crazy sister what they are not taking into account is he was a wife beater, serial adulter, didn't hold a job ect you know the type. They are thinking that everything worked out so well for her that my STBEXW should act just like her.
The difference is I worked took care of my family and was a father to my kids my wife should take a hint, from the kids she brought them a day early and I had them all week when it was time to go home they called there mom and begged for one more hour before they had to go.
My wife runs her fathers company she made out every check to my sister in-laws lawyer I had to listen to her gripe for 2 years every time she wrote a check.

[40andsadintexas]

Journaling
I know that everyone thinks there sich is the worst but after reading many posts it looks like most people are trying to save a marriage with a human being. Most people it seems at least try a little to save the marriage before the big D. No not us my wife files without even giving me a heads up. I told her from the day we were married that I would take ½ of the blame for anything that happens in our marriage. I still feel like that up until I found out about OM2 then OM3, I wanted to save our marriage more than anything else in the world now I don’t think I could ever be with her again, its like our kids, our family, our marriage did not have zero meaning to her, some times I guess these things just cant be fixed I guess there was to much damage done before I even knew there was a problem. From the beginning of our marriage my wife had always had ups and downs they ran in cycles about 2 months or so each. This last time she started pulling away I just thought it was a start of her down cycle. She had been on long up cycle that started back in November she started hunting with me this year she wanted to go every weekend we took all the kids spent lots of time together and I thought we were closer than we had ever been. When the down cycle started in April I did the normal thing and gave her space little did I know that with in six weeks she would file for the big d. From what I can tell she is having the high of her life right now when she crashes this time it should be a huge crash. Both of her sisters have been diagnosed as bipolar the crazy one has tried to commit suicide two or three times. I always thought my wife might be a little bipolar but there is no way she would ever seek help or take medication and for the most part I think that some people use mental problems as a crutch or excuse for there bad behavior. I don’t know why My wife started acting the way she did, I don’t think it has anything to do with being bipolar, I guess in her mind I was so bad she thought she had to run from me as fast as she could to a waiting crowd of scummy guy’s who have no problem getting what they want from a wife and mother

[Roy G. Biv]

I hate to see you in this position. Your wife has no idea what kind of damage she is doing to her children. You are the one that needs to stay strong for your kids, and it sounds like you are doing a great job of it. Just keep on taking it one day at a time. Hang in there, I know you can do it.

[40andsadintexas]

Talked to my kids tonight and there mom talking over them informed me tha she is buying a new camero 2011 model convertable then in the next sentence ask me if I was going to pay for half of the haloween costumes. I don't know whether to pay for half or tell her I'm not buying a new car I can't afford that?

[40andsadintexas]

I have decided the next time the STBEXW ask me for anything I am going to tell her not to ask me for anything over and above the court ordered child support as long as she is dating other men and taking my kids around them. Its not much but its the most I can do under the present sich. She called me at work twice this morning I did not pick up the phone the first time, the second time I spoke to her and as soon as she told me the kid stuff I told her that I was busy and had to let her go. She did not ask for money for the halloween costumes again.

[40andsadintexas]

Journaling
Today's been a pretty good day at work I made quite a few sales calls wrapped up some paperwork left for me when I was on vacation. I stayed busy enough that I didn't think about her to much which is where I was before the weeks vacation with my kids and them dropping the OM2 & om3 bomb on me. last weekend after I dropped the kids off I went and met and old girlfriend we had some drinks then ended up having dinner together (nothing Happened) and that was the first weekend that I have taken them home that I didn't feel like crying when I drove off and left my kids. This week school started so now I will get my kids for 2 hours every Thursday night that should ease the pain of only seeing them every 2 weeks.
The STBEXW called me two times at work today I did not pick up the first time and she called me about 30 minutes later on my work cell phone. I was pleasant answered her questions about the kids then told her I was busy and had to let her go then she told me to send her a email with my contact info on it for the kids school (She has my contact info) so about 2 hours later I sent the email she requested, she replied with "thank you" this is weird for her she never responds to email oh well I cant read her mind and try to figure out what kind of evil plan she has next I have spent 2 month trying to read her mind before I figured out thats impossible.
Tonight I will go ride my bike hopefully I can start going twice as far as I have been doing I have been riding 4 miles a night but tonight I am shooting for 8 miles 2 laps around the college path.
The first 2 months of the divorce diet I lost 30 pounds now I am not loosing weight any longer so I need to increase my exercise and take off the next 20 pounds I need to loose.

[40andsadintexas]

I went bike riding tonight and did not get home until after 8:00 so I did not call my kids I miss them but I get to see them for 2 hours tomorrow night that's way better than going 2 weeks without seeing them. I will never understand my wife she puts barriers between me and the kids then gripes because I don't see them enough. Last time she wasn't letting me see them I acted like that I was ok with that she had them call me three times a day so maybe not calling tonight will work in my favor

[40andsadintexas]

I did not call the kids last night because I got home after whats supposed to be there bed time they called me about 8:45 I talked to three out of 4 of them D10 told me mom got a new car today. About 10:00 STBEXW called and talked about one of the twins for a minute, this is kind of strange shes been calling more lately dont know what to think about her any more. I guess next time I talk with the lawyer I will tell him about the new car