I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[awest1217]

I asked them to not say anything about why I am divorced because it is embarrassing. They said I shouldn't be embarrassed but they understood. And they understood why I didn't want to divorce him and wanted to try to stay in the marriage. And that was just about all we said about it! It was a lot easier than I thought but I DID have tequila and a beer before I told them, lol!

I had a really hard time with this as well when H first left. I was so embarrassed and ashamed because I never want to be D. I felt at the time that I caused this to happen. I finally got over it and although I don't flaunt it, I do tell people when they ask, and don't feel ashamed anymore because I know that although I made many mistakes, it is still does not give H the right to leave me for another worman.

Since you have been gone during most of your separation, it is probably harder because you have to first reaquaint yourselves, but don't be embarassed.

Enjoy getting back into working. And I agree I think you will hear from zoobrew again...maybe a little while later when he is more available and so are you.