The boundary must be set and enforced at some point. I believe, it is after replay is over or near the end of that stage. Now if you ask PDT he believes it should be set early in the crisis. What we see as controlling he see as necessary.
I would be interested to hear what other wise MLC board members would say.
A boundary is for you. It is well thought out and done for you on a personal level.
You lay it to protect you or what you believe in. Nothing more.
There is absolutely no set point in MLC time to lay a boundary. You're not doing it to control them or to influence them. I can't say it enough. You lay a boundary for you.
When you lay it, be prepared for it to be tested or broken. So think long and hard as to how you will follow through once it's broken. Lance, I believe you are confusing the time frame because folks on here tend to say boundaries come later on.
The main reason that is said IMO is because many times the LBS isn't mentally prepared to lay it correctly and follow through, and yes, they aren't going to listen to them early on.
I never really understood that however, just because they aren't going to listen doesn't mean one shouldn't be put in place when needed. It isn't about them. It's for you.
You lay a boundary for you.