Lance is right. What you are seeing is the mask and it is very hard work for them to maintain and keep it from slipping in front of the people they're trying to convince that their life is now a bed of roses.
That haunted look you described is very hard for me to look at. You can practically see the inner turmoil.
I have a hard time looking at my H too. It's hard getting past the fact that he seems to think his selfishness and entitlement are perfectly justified and should just be accepted by all parties.
Why do you think that your H wants you to be at the client meeting so bad? Is he starting to doubt his ability to bring them in?
I don't envy you the car ride and will be thinking of you. Good luck in securing the client! I have a feeling you may be doing more of this...
